I have been divorced for 16 years after two bad marriages. I have not dated for over 7 years. I am very happy that I can live my life my way and not have to answer to a man but I still get lonely. It is not about feminism. I am a feminist and so is my son. He has shown me how a man can respect women. It is about finding a man who will respect your equality in the relationship. You just need a feminist man who understands that your rights are just as important as his but, as they say, a good man is hard to find. Keep looking for the right one and stay away from the wrong ones. In the meantime, do things to take your mind off your loneliness and keep enjoying your independence.