Your are absolutely right. Many pulpits today have the wolves in sheep's clothing that Jesus spoke of.

Let me give two of my favorite passages.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

1 John 4:8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Anyone who goes against this isn't working for God but for the enemy of God.

God bless you.